The last post I wrote about hospitals was the one where I told you my husband was home and starting to recuperate after his recent spell in intensive care.
A fair bit has happened since then, but I’ve lacked the energy or inclination to write about it as the whole situation has left us both feeling pretty helpless, desperate and flat.
Rog was allowed home from hospital, but his symptoms didn’t improve and within days it was clear he wasn’t well enough to be at home. He was lacking energy, losing weight and still had an upset stomach and increasing pain around his middle.
Once you’re out of hospital though, it’s very hard to get an appointment to see somebody and so followed a frustrating couple of weeks involving many calls to the GP and consultant, a scan, blood transfusion and finally his re-admission to a ward. By that time, we breathed a massive sigh of relief. It had come to a point where I’d been waking in the night, listening for his breath and shaking his arm to see if he was still ok. My anxiety levels couldn’t get much higher, and for our own piece of mind something needed to be done.
So he’s been back on the isolation ward for a week now, and still there are no answers, no change in symptoms and no sign of him coming back home. Plus, it’s half term so we’ve been leaning on family and friends a lot for help with childcare while I visit him for an hour or two each day.
The Rescue Remedy has been at the ready and a life-saving visit from two of my oldest friends has taken some of the tension away. The cup of tea they made me in bed yesterday morning certainly helped – I don’t think that has happened for about two years!
So there isn’t much of an update, but seeing as everyone has been asking I kind of felt I should write. I haven’t got much to report, but I can say that February isn’t really shaping up to be any easier than January. I’ve cried at home, at the hospital, at work, and even during a row with my five-year-old, which he found highly amusing!
I’ve been writing down the good and bad things that have happened, to try to focus a bit more on the good. Here goes!
Bad things
Having to fight to be seen by hospital doctors.
Juggling hospital visits and kids when we had planned to spend half-term in Lanzarote.
Not much progress.
Good things
Help and support from family, friends and work.
Rog’s symptoms not getting any worse.
Chocolate and wine.
Seeing my friends and having a sleepover with their little ones.
The Nutri-Bullet cacao drink my friend made for me (more of that later)
Getting some light relief this weekend as I’m meeting up with some of my best blogger buddies (more on that later too!)
So there you go. Not much to report, just a bit of a moan! Hopefully my next update will be more positive. Have a good weekend everyone.
X Julia
7 Comments
Deb Troops
February 20, 2015 at 5:20 pmJulia we might be able to help at least with getting round the system get in touch
Mini Travellers
February 21, 2015 at 7:27 amSo glad he is back in the right place but so sorry it was so hard!! NHS is amazing in a crisis, possibly not so amazing at working out you are! See you later!
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Katie lifeonvistastreet haydock
February 21, 2015 at 7:55 amYou really are amazing. So brave and so strong. Keep going what you are doing and I will see you tonight xx
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Laura @ Life with Baby Kicks
February 22, 2015 at 10:11 amI hope that now there’s a light at the end of the tunnel and you get some answers that you needx x
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Caro | The Twinkles Momma
February 22, 2015 at 11:35 amAaah pet — I hope that the doctors can pinpoint what’s wrong, now he’s back in hospital.
You’re doing SO well. I struggled over the last couple of weeks without my boy but he’s back on form again now and seems to have given the pneumonia it’s marching orders. I’m so sorry you’re having such a rough time. Keeping everything crossed things pick up for you very soon. Sending a big virtual hug. #SundayStars
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mummyofboygirltwins
February 22, 2015 at 8:21 pmI really hope things improve soon. Must be so hard and frustrating. Really hope things improve soon. Loads of love and luck, Jess #sundaystars
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Katy {What Katy Said}
February 25, 2015 at 9:21 amI am so glad you have a supportive network around you! I cannot imagine how hard it must be xx
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