After the past few weeks I felt like we really needed a break, and getting away on a Great British beach holiday in Filey seemed like the perfect option.
I am from Ilkley in West Yorkshire originally, but haven’t spent that much time on the East Yorkshire coast apart from a few days in Robin Hood’s Bay years ago. We live nearer to Wales now, so tend to take UK holidays there but I needed a change and Filey came out top. Not least because it’s a favourite destination of my oldest friend Sally, who knows the place like the back of her hand, and has a few friends who have holiday homes over there to rent. She managed to find us a gorgeous apartment right next to the park and a few minutes’ walk from the beach, so it was a perfect base for us to stay with our kids for a few days.
We both have boys around the same age, and we were joined by our friend Sarah and her three-year-old girl after a few days so the crew grew even larger. My sister visited for one of the days too, magnifying the fun the kids had on the beach together and making the adult to child ratio a little easier to handle!
Holidays with children aren’t always that relaxing are they – shall we say they are more invigorating?! – but having friends with us was a massive help. My energy levels are seriously low, I’m feeling totally washed out with all my emotions from my husband’s illness, his passing and then the funeral. Added to that the stress of all the paperwork I’m having to wade through and general lack of sleep, I really think I needed a week just to lie in a dark room to help revive myself a bit. I really wanted to make sure our children had a break too though, after all they are having a rough time too, particularly our son, and the school holidays are nearly over.
When you have other adults to hand though, it’s the little things like having someone make your dinner, help put your kids to bed and pour you a large gin and tonic afterwards that really make the difference. Being able to spend so much time away with my close friends and our little ones has been a little silver lining for this summer break. I can’t say I have been on top form, far from it, and I can’t say I haven’t cried, because I have, but this past week has been a nice thing to happen for our family, and one we really did need.
Going on family holidays have always been so special for us, they are the times when (despite the stresses) we have made memories, had fun together and been on little adventures as a team. Knowing I’ll never have Rog with me on holiday again is heartbreaking, and a loss I’ll feel greatly for the rest of my life I’m sure.
But to know that this first time has gone well, this first break away without him has been survived, is a little milestone at least.
Since we came home the kids haven’t stopped talking about all the fun they had, the endless ‘sleepovers’, playing on the beach, crabbing, the arcades, the fish and chips… even the day of rain didn’t seem to bother them too much.
Filey is such a great place for kids, it’s pretty small, the beach has clean, soft sand and plenty of rock pools to hunt in, the park has pedalos and crazy golf and a bouncy castle stands over the prom. The seaside towns of Scarborough and Whitby are just up the coast, so if you stayed longer and felt like venturing elsewhere it would be a perfect place to stop.
Why not pop over to my instagram account for more photos of Filey?