Last month I joined in for the first time with the Me and Mine project, where you share a family portrait at the end of each month. We had some beautiful photographs taken by our friend and photographer Colin McPherson, and I felt I wanted to share them on my blog.
This month, our photograph is very different! It was taken in the back garden with my camera set up on the timer, and we only managed to get three shots as Sam and Florence were not very impressed by the whole thing and Roger wasn’t very comfortable on the bench. I wondered whether I should use these photos as you can see how Rog has lost weight from last month, and it makes me sad to see him looking less well.
I have stopped taking photos of us together as he hasn’t been feeling good and I didn’t think it was fair. But I don’t want to look back at these times and wish we had more images to look at, to remind us all of the special weeks we spent at home this summer. Over the weekend, my husband was at home from the hospice and I thought it would be a good chance to take a few photos while we were feeling more relaxed. I know how hard it is to get a family photo in the best circumstances so I’m not surprised at all that Florrie isn’t even looking at the camera in one of these!
This is us though, for better or for worse.
x Julia
28 Comments
Katie
June 30, 2015 at 10:23 amOh love, these are beautiful photos and ones your children will cherish in the future. I know Rog looks very poorly and was uncomfortable, but you all look so happy just to be together. Cherish these moments xxx
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Hayley (@hayleyfromhome)
June 30, 2015 at 10:26 amThey are beautiful Julia. I can understand that they are hard for you you to look at but I’m glad you’ve shared them, they are real and true and you are together, I love them xxxx
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Karen
June 30, 2015 at 10:37 amI understand how hard it must be to have shared these but they are beautiful photos and you will look back and cherish them x
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mummyofboygirltwins
June 30, 2015 at 10:59 amAhhh such lovely photographs and you’ll treasure them one day. I can understand how hard they must be but they look lovely and your smiles made me smile. Jess xxx
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LauraCYMFT
June 30, 2015 at 11:06 amGosh this is such a moving post. This must have been so hard for you both but you will have these to look back on. You said your husband felt uncomfortable but all I can see is a beautiful family who look so happy together.
Mrs H
June 30, 2015 at 11:18 amAwww, lovely Julia. I am so glad you shared these wonderful photos. They are definitely something you will treasure in future. You and Rog are the focus of the photo. And there is so much love there. It is beautiful. Massive hugs, Mrs H xxxx
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Heledd - Running in Lavender
June 30, 2015 at 12:00 pmFor better or worse is right Julia, always and forever. The love and devotion you and Rog have for each other leaps out of these pictures before anything else. I know you struggled to decide whether to post these shots but I’m so glad you did. Cherish each day, each memory, each photo. You’re such an amazing family xxx
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Steph
June 30, 2015 at 12:57 pmFor fear of repeating all previous comments, you look so devoted to one another in these photos x
Mini Travellers
June 30, 2015 at 2:53 pmCherish every day and so glad you took, and published these photos. I love the hand holding and the smiles. You clearly adore each other and that is so obvious from these photos. I know Rog looks thinner than last month but he is still loving his time with you all. Big loves xxx
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Katy
June 30, 2015 at 3:46 pmOh Julia, I can understand why you wondered about sharing them. Roger looks so poorly my heart breaks. These are precious times though and you were right to take the photos as you will want to remember him as his smiley self and he really is happy here surrounded by his favourite people. Lots of love xxxx
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Megan - truly madly kids
June 30, 2015 at 6:22 pmEven though Rog was uncomfortable, you can see how much he loves you all. The way his hand rests on your lap. Also, I can see how much you love him. You all look beautiful (and I mean that) and these are moments to capture and cherish. For better for worse is the perfect way to sum it all up. Beautiful writing yet again xxxxx
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Suzanne
June 30, 2015 at 6:52 pmI think you’re right to take these photographs and to share them. Yes he looks poorly but you’re a family and your children are with their daddy. Precious times. X
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Linda Ewing
June 30, 2015 at 8:30 pmSuch beautiful photos! x
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Jenna
June 30, 2015 at 10:27 pmI know you had lots of reservations about posting these photos, Julia – but you honestly needn’t have worried. You and your family are utterly beautiful. You have these photos to treasure forever.
Send lots of love to you, Rog and the kids. xxx
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sarah christie
June 30, 2015 at 10:50 pmJulia, I love how much your love shines through, I just wish Roger wasn’t so poorly x
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Christina
June 30, 2015 at 11:53 pmThank you for sharing this family photo. What a beautiful and brave family you are. I wish I could give you a big hug!
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Katie life on vista haydock
July 1, 2015 at 12:15 amJulia I simply love this. Such A beautiful post xxxx
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Leigh - Headspace Perspective
July 1, 2015 at 8:35 amA beautiful photo lovely. I can understand your reticence, but what I see between you and Rog is love and devotion – and the children being children. A very precious memory. I know from my time with Hugo photos are wonderful, invaluable, yet never enough xxx
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Hannah Budding Smiles
July 1, 2015 at 12:19 pmI think it’s a beautiful picture, Roger looks so happy surrounded by his wonderful family and these memories will be so, so treasured. Loads of love xxx
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Beth Twinderelmo
July 1, 2015 at 1:48 pmFor better, for worse. Photos evoke so many memoirs; I scroll through my camera roll and instantly can tell you the date my mom was diagnosed but all these photos tell a story and a moment in your life. Treasure them – and I love that Florrie is looking the other way – a typical family portrait hey!!!
Love and wine as always from me xxxx
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Claire @ Clarina's Contemplations
July 1, 2015 at 2:51 pmBeautiful photographs that capture you as you are. Real is raw and hard but beautiful… Your unity as a family really shines out… So glad you shared.xx
Carie
July 1, 2015 at 11:01 pmI don’t think you can ever regret having these photos; they might not be all pinterest perfect but they are beautiful because they are real and because they speak of a very visible love between all of you – thank you for sharing them.
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Katie @mummydaddyme
July 2, 2015 at 10:23 amJulia these made me sit and my computer and cry. I know you don’t want or need to hear that but thank you for sharing them. I know you will look back and be so glad that you took these, even though Roger looks thinner and more poorly than last month. Your unity as a family and the love you have for each other really shines through. They are raw but absolutely beautiful. Sending you all my love as always. xx
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Caro | The Twinkles Mama
July 2, 2015 at 7:15 pmAaah sweetheart. Just echoing everything that everyone has already said. You’ll treasure these photos in the future.
Rog looks so frail here but the love radiates from you both.
Sending so much love to you and your family — I wish with my whole being that this wasn’t happening to you. It’s so awfully unfair xxxx #MeandMine
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Amber
July 2, 2015 at 10:27 pmOh, but these are beautiful. I am so glad that you took them and that you shared your family photographs with us. That first picture – your clasped hands – there is so much love there. As Katie said, raw but absolutely beautiful. Thinking of you. xx
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Natalie {Little Jam Pot Life - blog}
July 16, 2015 at 10:00 pmMy heart just jumped to my throat, these images are so powerfully honest and just so beautiful. Like Amber said, the amount of love shown is what counts. and I think the little ones will be thankful for them. Sending lots of love your way xx
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Sarah Doyle - let them be small
July 17, 2015 at 3:25 pmI don’t think you will regret taking more photos xxx
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